Now what is the first thing you think of when you picture a christian? Definitely not someone having a petty argument (I hope). We are all sinners who make mistakes but as followers of God we need to emulate Christ’s righteous behaviour, which does not include lawsuits against your brothers in Christ. Take a look at 1 Corinthians Chapter 6:1-8 here if you haven’t already,
“Dare any of you, having a matter against another, go to law before the unjust, and not before the saints?
Do ye not know that the saints shall judge the world? And if the world shall be judged by you, are ye unworthy to judge the smallest matters?
Know ye not that we shall judge angels? How much more things that pertain to this life?
If then ye have judgments of things pertaining to this life, set them to judge who are least esteemed in the church.
I speak to your shame. Is it so, that there is not a wise man among you? No, not one that shall be able to judge between his brethren?
But brother goeth to law with brother, and that before the unbelievers.
Now therefore there is utterly a fault among you, because ye go to law one with another. Why do ye not rather take wrong? Why do ye not rather suffer yourselves to be defrauded?
Nay, ye do wrong, and defraud, and that your brethren”
Paul pretty much lays down his expectations here, to be sensible and know when to pick your battles. But when we can’t (or won’t) give up the argument for whatever reason, instead of escalating the situation, start by prayerfully seeking God’s help before involving someone to serve as an intermediary. It would help if we recognized that Most of these arguments are a result of our sinful natures and if we were to follow Colossians 3:11-15 from the start, we would be much better off.
For a similar topic see “Guard your tongue”.